I have been seeing this a lot in the MFP forums
lately. That being the pervasive interjection of unwelcome comments
and critism agaisnt people making a life style change. Now I am not
talking about people slinging arrows on the forums. Far from it. From
what I have seen, the folks who make up the MFP community are as
supportive as they are informative. I am talking about the people
outside the digital domain. It seems that family, friends and
co-workers are the ones who seem to do the most harm. However,
aquaintance or complete strangers are being liberally mixed into the
fold of late. It seems that everyone has an opinion that whatever place
you are trying to get out of is just fine.
"Why do you need to lose [insert your desired weight lose here]?"
"75 lbs overweight is not obese. That is just the really, REALLY big people like my 600 lb life. You are just a fat."
"I know you are on some sort of diet but you really need to try this [insert food you dont want]."
"You want to run 5k?! I mean the parking is bad at Walmart but it is not that far?"
"Why don't you want to come out to lunch with us on Deep Fried Food Friday? Your diet makes you [better/self righteous/more important than our friendship]?"
"Why do you want to gain weight? You know it is all just going to turn to fat when you quit exercising."
Sabotage, pure and simple. People don't like change and here you are, changing. How dare you?! You have become an ugly symbol of what they know deep down in their own heart to be true and need to fix, but are content to be idle. They would rather be Fat, Dumb and Happy on the couch than be Fit, Determined and Hungry for Change in their heart.
You can have sympathy for the devil, but that does not mean you have to go to hell to give it. If they are family, friend or co-worker you can just offer an olive branch, like "I am going for a run tomorrow but I would be happy to walk. Would you care to join me?" If they say no, you tried. Don't let some misguided comment, snide remark or rude look derail you. Like water off a ducks back, you cannot let their bad mojo weigh you down.
“If people want something to be wrong about you— they are going to make things wrong about you. That is why it is my belief to never try and prove anything to anyone. Real diamonds belong to people who know how to spot a real diamond; they don’t belong to people who need to be convinced that they are real diamonds. It’s the idiots who need to be convinced of something that they cannot already see.”
― C. JoyBell C.
-- TapouTFTW
"Why do you need to lose [insert your desired weight lose here]?"
"75 lbs overweight is not obese. That is just the really, REALLY big people like my 600 lb life. You are just a fat."
"I know you are on some sort of diet but you really need to try this [insert food you dont want]."
"You want to run 5k?! I mean the parking is bad at Walmart but it is not that far?"
"Why don't you want to come out to lunch with us on Deep Fried Food Friday? Your diet makes you [better/self righteous/more important than our friendship]?"
"Why do you want to gain weight? You know it is all just going to turn to fat when you quit exercising."
Sabotage, pure and simple. People don't like change and here you are, changing. How dare you?! You have become an ugly symbol of what they know deep down in their own heart to be true and need to fix, but are content to be idle. They would rather be Fat, Dumb and Happy on the couch than be Fit, Determined and Hungry for Change in their heart.
You can have sympathy for the devil, but that does not mean you have to go to hell to give it. If they are family, friend or co-worker you can just offer an olive branch, like "I am going for a run tomorrow but I would be happy to walk. Would you care to join me?" If they say no, you tried. Don't let some misguided comment, snide remark or rude look derail you. Like water off a ducks back, you cannot let their bad mojo weigh you down.
“If people want something to be wrong about you— they are going to make things wrong about you. That is why it is my belief to never try and prove anything to anyone. Real diamonds belong to people who know how to spot a real diamond; they don’t belong to people who need to be convinced that they are real diamonds. It’s the idiots who need to be convinced of something that they cannot already see.”
― C. JoyBell C.
-- TapouTFTW
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